The Generation Gap
Writing by muslimama on Monday, 21 of January , 2008 at 9:30 pm
If you thought that I was talking about myself and the kids, well, that’s not what this is is about!
I live with my mum in law, and she is a mother of three grown up males (of course, hubby is fully grown…so I think). In her time she was considered a great example of good parenting and so far the results of her efforts are still to be seen.However, I find not all that was done to kids earlier in terms of punishment or strictness would work now.
I at times have this ongoing thing about pleasing both generations , but, in the end one thinks of what is good and feasible for the kids.This often can lead to disapproval from elders, and as a mother I do things my way only if I know I’m doing it for their good, not out of some ” I can do it better than you” attitude.No hard feelings (ideally) ought to be involved! And I do listen to all words of caution and methods, before putting it through the “feasibility” scan. I take a good chunk of it, and adapt it to my kids needs(and my own style of relating to them,learnt over the years) and some of them work well,but others well are out dated.I think there was a Hadith about bringing your kids differently from the way one was raised.I’ll try to find it and put it up here!
However, I must add that there is a vast amount of knowledge to gain from the parenting experiences of our elders, and I hope I don’t ever in my moments of stupidity miss out on them!
Do you sense a bit of guilt here??
Category: Raising kids, Uncategorized
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