The Muslim Mama Diary

Muslim mama, I tried commenting here a few days ago, and repeatedly got an ‘error’ page, for some reason.

About your daughter, well, tbh, I don’t have any specific advice.

However, I do remember reading that academic intelligence isn’t the only kind, and sometimes our schools don’t always help to develop our other talents.

Or maybe there could be some underlying problem (eyesight, hearing?) that could be easily fixed.

Hope somebody else might be able to give you some advice.

Don’t push her too hard, though :).

I don’t quite know what happened; I think my comment was just eaten up. :(

It’s one of the most overlooked feature of our school aged children - mashaAllah they are all different and learn at their own pace. You can’t force your daughter to learn when she isn’t ready. If she is in her first year of secondary school, maybe there are other pressures, loss of friends, new friendships, new place, different routine.

Give her lots of one on one time (I know that is so hard as you have other children to take care of). Not necessarily homework time, but time with her - chatting about girly things, having a laugh, just baking a cake together.

what is she good at? what does she enjoy doing? spend time with her doing that and she may open up to you and let you know herself why she is finding school so hard.

My 7 year old is struggling with school at the moment. He is much slower than the rest and he is not very focussed. I try not to make it an issue but it does worry me a bit. I still bug him when he’s doing his homework but we have found a book he is enjoying reading and I make sure he reads a bit to me every night. His confidence is building up and he is more able to cope when he doesn’t know something. He is more likely to try to fix the problem than to have a tantrum like he used to do

hope that makes sense.

Keep making dua. InshaAllah she will find her talent and excel in that.

Jazhakh Allah mummyjaan…pls do keep trying to comment!I dont know why it’s happenng and I’ll try tof ix it!

Tasmiya…Jazhakh Allah for giving me such sound advice!i am seriously trying to spend more time with her…but I can’t say I know what on earth to do!I hope your son will do better with time and I’m glad he loves reading…which is a start I guess , to good learning habits!Pls do keep her in your prayers!

Muslimama,

I got a daughter also age 12. just started secondary last september, But she’s home schooling since than. ( she never when to secondary school). I think, when they reach age 11, 12 and 13, for the girl, you can feel the different.
I start to feel the different. Still learn how to handle it! It’s teenager age I reckon. And it’s scary me to be honest. I try to think the best way to handle them. Even though I’m a teenager my self long ago..time just different now..
May Allah help us.

Thank you sister finie! Your words are a comfort to me!I hope my girl will really change with time!